Every now and then, I try to give my readers a glimpse of me. I mean, ME. I'm blessed to have silent yet supportive friends! In all of the things that I am involved in, and with all of ways Jamila Wellness LLC is growing, I have had two friends call me to check on me. Well. they were actually calling me out on doing too much. I honestly and greatly appreciate these two ladies for silently keeping their eyes on me.
Here is something that some people know about me: I was diagnosed with clinical depression in early 2007. Since then, I have learned so much about living with it, and not ignoring it. Through these life lessons (as well as education), I have learned how depression and anxiety can be connected. For example, I can become anxious about accomplishing several tasks, and fall into a wave of depression if that list of tasks becomes seemingly daunting. What does this mean? It means that I need to maintain a healthy amount of tasks and keep things in moderation.
I love my friends! They monitor my ups and downs, my depression waves and my manic moments. The thing that I realized recently is that I often show what I'm doing (on blogs, on social media, on the podcast), but I rarely show some other things. This can make it seem as though all I do is work LOL! But there are indeed things that I spend time doing to balance myself. So I decided to share most of them with you (after all, there are a few things I just keep to myself).
1. Participate in my church music ministry
I am a member of Second Baptist Church in Miami, FL (Richmond Heights). My pastor is Reverend Alphonso Jackson, Sr. I just have to say that I LOVE MY PASTOR! I have always loved music and my favorite genre is choir gospel music (especially choirs in the 80's and 90's). Being part of the SBC United Voices of Praise, as well as the Praise Team, is right up my alley. We sing twice a Sunday on every 1st, 3rd, and 5th Sundays and rehearse at least twice per month. Including rehearsals, Sundays, and church outings, we spend a lot of time together.
2. Watch TV
I don't have an established television-watching schedule. I don't make sure that I'm in front of my television at certain times of certain days to make sure that I catch certain shows as soon as they air. However, I have a best friend that does their best to make sure I catch my favorite shows. That best friend is my DVR! Can we just take a moment to give a round of applause to my DVR? I should name it. Ummm, I can't come up with anything right now. We'll table that for later. But seriously, my DVR records every episode of all of my favorite shows, especially my Auntie Iyanla while she's trying to help people fix their lives. NCIS, NCIS New Orleans, Scorpion, Big Bang Theory, SWAT, Criminal Minds, and of course This Is Us. Although I don't get the chance to watch television regularly, I am able to catch up on these shows once or twice a week. And then I engage in a bit of binge-watching!
3. Hang out with friends
Yes! I actually do this! Not nearly as much as I'd like, but I do spend time with friends. We don't get together much because of work schedules, personal lives, family time, dating/marriage, etc. However, when we do get together, it's never a dull time. We love go out to eat too lol. We also love not being broke, so we meet up in moderation.
This is, by far, my favorite pastime. No exaggeration. As I'm writing this blog, it is storming outside. I am excited to climb into bed, cocoon in my comforter, press play on my DVR, and eventually fall into a delicious slumber as the thunder and rain sing me a lullaby. My, that was so poetic! That is how much a love a good sleep. On that note, I don't know how people do the 20-minute-nap thing. A nap, for me, is 2 hours! I know I'm not alone here..... right?
To be honest, I have to fight to make time to read. I also need to make time to exercise too, but that's an entire separate blog post in itself LOL! Anyway... in looking for ways to help me get motivated to read (which I love to do but just don't have a lot of time to do so), I joined my friend's book club GirlReads Book Club. If you are interested in a small number of books that I recommend, click here.
Since I was a child, I've been an avid daydreamer. I would drift off in school and have to fight to stay focused. After all, daydreaming wasn't a good thing as a child. At least that’s what most adults led me to believe. The older I got, the more I trained myself to be focused when my mind decided to wander. I started journaling. This helped me keep track of my thoughts, both conscious and subconscious. To this day, you can catch me with a notebook in my purse or in my hand. Now, as an adult, I realize that zoning out is necessary from time to time. It gives my brain a chance to check out and rest. I'm not thinking about Jamila Wellness and all that it she entails. I'm not thinking about Key 4 Enterprises and all that he entails. I'm not worried about family members or friends. I'm not at church, watching TV, or reading. I am doing ... truly ... absolutely ... nothing. Well, I'm breathing, but you get the point.
I'd love to hear from you! What are some things that you do, that others think you don't do?